We’re Not ‘Thinking Pink’

Both Mr. Not-So-Frugal and I were firm in our belief that the baby I’m carrying was destined to be a boy. I mean, c’mon — we both desperately wanted a boy, and in my gut, I just *knew* it was a mini version of Mr. NSF.

Oh, how wrong we were — it’s a girl!


I should know by now that when I’m strongly convinced of one outcome, the opposite happens. In school, anytime I thought I aced a test, I did poorly. During our attempts to conceive, every month I would think, “Hey, THIS is the month I’ll get those little blue lines on the pee stick!” — and every month, I’d be terribly wrong and disappointed. Finally, the one time I didn’t think it was possible, we got a positive test. And we are so happy that we finally got pregnant because it took some doing beyond the usual method.

So when I convinced myself that we were having a boy, it finally hit me: “Hey, stupid — you know that’s not the way it’s going to happen!” So deep down, I knew our baby would be a girl.

However, I am not going to go the “pink” route. Some people have said “good luck with that,” but that doesn’t mean those are things I’m going to keep if given. Sounds harsh, but it’s our prerogative and my one request. I don’t push blue on boys. There are other pretty colors out there. Girls don’t have to be bubble-gum pink princesses. I sure wasn’t. I was the one playing in the dirt, picking up worms, riding my bike with the boys and playing rough outside. I was the one carrying a wallet and not a purse in high school. I was the one riding motorcycles (and not as a passenger), camping and hiking. And I turned out just fine.

Don’t get me wrong. We’ll let our daughter develop a personality — and a style — all her own. But I want her to know that she can do anything she wants to do — she doesn’t need to be pigeonholed. If that means going against the grain, so be it. Heaven knows I did.

So if you want to get our little girl anything, skip the tiaras and the pink dresses.

15 comments to We’re Not ‘Thinking Pink’

  • But you’re going to let her read all the awesome girl books like Ramona Quimby, A Wrinkle in Time, and Anne of Green Gables, right? 🙂

  • Yay!!!!!!!! Congrats!!! Very exciting 🙂

  • Patti

    This is great! I love it. While I was VERY girly growing up – I did NOT touch worms, was too prissy to get dirty, and certainly was not a tomboy, I grew up to be a very well rounded woman who happens to hate shopping for clothes and would much rather spend my days at Lowes and Home Depot looking for tools. (I do admit to owning a pink electric screwdriver). Here’s to strong, confident women everywhere… no matter what color she may be wearing. 🙂

  • Phew! I remember my sister did not know what she was having and thought it was terrible because *gasp* she didn’t know what color to paint the nursery!

    Congratulations again!!

    • Penny

      @Leslie: That’s why we painted the room yellow 😉 Plus we’ll likely be sharing the room with the baby while we renovate the other bedroom.

    • Patti

      @Leslie: we’re not finding out what we’re having until the baby is born. I painted the guest bedroom a mossy green when we first moved in… bc I knew that no matter what the future gave us, he/she was not going to live in a pink or blue room. Team Green! 🙂

  • Wonderful! I’m planning on going with yellow for my babies too (but that’s more because I’m a rabid fan of a yellow college team). 😉 I know my sister will “pink-out” my future babies though if given half the chance!

  • Whatever gender my kids are, they will wear all colours! Green, red, yellow, blue, purple.

  • I wonder what we’re doing to an entire generation of little girls growing up with all pink or purple clothes and toys. Good for you for challenging the status quo.

  • While I’m still on the baby making fence, I’ve always thought about making a safari themed nursery. Because I’m a procrasinator by nature, I figured that I could just start collecting things little by little while the bambino cooks in the heaven. I was also going to make Rambo paint a huge giraffe in the corner. 😛

  • I LOVE this! My husband and I felt the same way before our daughter was born, even before we knew whether we were having a boy or a girl. We’ve deliberately picked out mostly gender neutral toys, bedding, and even clothing. She does have some pink things, but they don’t take over her toy collection/wardrobe at all. And on the rare occasions when someone’s given us something like a pink dress with the word “diva” across it in glitter…it’s gone straight to Goodwill. I think there have actually been studies recently which indicate that pushing girls toward pink, purple, and everything flower and heart-emblazoned is bad for their imaginations and development.

    • Penny

      @Cate: I wasn’t a super-girlie girl, and I turned out okay. What irks me are the people who try to make me feel like I’m crazy for not wanting this stuff for our daughter. They’re free to do whatever they want — and so are we!

  • […] no, we’re still not ‘thinking pink‘ — although it’s going to be much easier to add another girl to our family, since […]

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